10 Ways to Keep Up With Your Resolutions
I can finally say, I have achieved a lot last year. 2014 was a big year for me. I went through a big event towards the end of 2013 which changed the way I see things and do things in 2014. let me just tell you some of the things that changed for me in 2014. (After all, it has been 27 posts with you)
1. I was always a nervous kid, but in 2014 I had my first panic attack and since then I have had a few more. I learned more about my insecurities and what makes me nervous. I also learned how to control it and trying my best to face it.
2. In 2014, rather than just thinking about what I want to do in the future, I decided to act on it so I can actually achieve my goals. I got back into doing projects, consulted schools, and looked into everything I could do to to fulfill my passion.
3. I started blogging (without quitting). I have blogged since I was in high school but my post count never really past 3. I never had enough motivation to put the effort in and though I wish I had more persistence, I am glad that I found that now and can be open with the world.
4. Speaking of being open, I kept a lot of secrets about myself. I never faced my emotional problems. I never shared my fear of becoming like my dad who suffers from severe depression. I never for a second thought to tell my friends problems I have within the family, or my loneliness for being away from friends and family. In 2014, with the support of my boyfriend, I learned to share and to put effort into maintaining my relationships with friends and family. I am now less afraid to tell people how I feel.
I’ve learned more about myself in the past year by making these mini milestones, and I find that it really helped me see what I needed to stay motivated and reach my goals. I have made more goals for myself for 2015 and I am planning on using the 10 tips that I am about to share with you to keep myself motivated and on track.
- Be True to Yourself.
Being true to yourself can mean several things. You have to make sure you are doing something for a reason, and that reason is for yourself and not for anyone else. You should strive to make goals for a personal growth or health improvement. Never make a goal that is superficial with unrealistic expectations because you know you will not stick with it. (Unless your Kim Kardashian..?) Also, choose a goal that you are interested in. If you want to gain more knowledge, you don’t have to make yourself read 15 books a month if you hate reading, you can opt for watching educational documentaries, movies, and radio.
- Share your Resolutions/Goals
Whether you want to share it with one person or the entire world, you have to share it with someone. Try to share it with people who you know are supportive and positive. Keeping your resolutions in your notebook or diary will only cause you to eventually make excuses to quit. By sharing your resolutions with someone, they can provide you with support and you know you can share your accomplishment with them when you’ve reached your goals.
- Write them down
Now, this is the part where you need to be S.M.A.R.T. (Click here to learn how to set a S.M.A.R.T goal) Write down your resolutions so you don’t forget exactly what your trying to reach. This way you can also easily measure your progress throughout the journey. You should write down your main goals on a piece of paper and stick it somewhere visible so it reminds you everyday and gives you more motivation. You can also make a schedule and set sub-goals if your resolution/goal is longterm. By setting sub-goals, you can calculate the progress you need at a point of time in order to reach your goal by the deadline.
- Reward vs. Punishment
A good way to keep you going is to have a reward and/or a punishment for each time when you don’t reach your sub-goals. A reward can be having a sweet treat at the end of the week if you’ve kept up with your fitness schedule. A punishment can be putting 10$ in a jar for charity or for treating friends out if you haven’t been keeping up with your schedule each week. I started doing this when a friend of mine who would set very hard goals for herself and swear to shave her head if she doesn’t reach them by the deadline. Guess what? She reached all her goals. It has helped her reach beyond her expectation for what she believed was possible for herself. That, my friend, brings me to the next point.
- Don’t Underestimate Your Ability
I know this is cliche, but I find that most people underestimate what they are capable of achieving. Reaching a hard goal make have factors like timing, the correct plan, and health issues, but if you believe you have the right resources, you can set your goals sky high. The important thing is, have a reasonable timeframe for your goals. For example, instead of saying you want to run 10k under 1 hour by the end of next month, you can set a goal of running a full length marathon by the end of the year. It may seem intimidating to set a goal so hard, and that’s why you set sub-goals. Not to mention that when you finally reach your goal, you will truly feel accomplished and satisfied.
- Make At Least One Relationship Goals
Why? Relationship goals allow you to work on yourself and know more about yourself during the process. It also helps you build a stronger bond with those who you care and can provide you with support. When you work on your relationships with others, you can actually get a direct response therefore keep you more motivated. You can also get feedback easily which may also help you in reaching your personal goals. I love relationship goals, because you learn so much about life and attitude.
- Have Courage, Have Fear
“Have no fear” is cliche as f***, so I’m not going to use it. Plus, I think you SHOULD have fear. Fear means you’re stepping out of your comfort zone, and that is exactly what you are looking for when you make a goal. But if you have fear then you also need courage. Courage is not the absence of fear, it’s just the ability to overcome fear and push yourself further. I went bouldering the other day, and as someone who is scared of heights, I couldn’t climb up over 3 feet, seriously. I was shaking so badly not because I was tired but because I was so afraid. I didn’t quit right away though. I tried and tried and finally got up to about 5 feet. By then I was pretty tired. Though I only topped out twice with the easiest levels, I was pretty proud of myself for not peeing my pants. I had so much fear when I was in midair, but that courage I had to reach out for another rock.. that was what felt good. So have courage, and have fear! It will keep you challenged, and motivated.
- Do Your Research
This one should be a takeaway, really. If you don’t even know why you’re doing something or how to do it properly, why do it in the first place? Do you research. Know how things work and understand if it’s the right thing for you. The more you know about something, the more you’ll feel comfortable doing it hence the higher success rate for reaching your goal!
- Write a Paragraph
This was a smart tip from the boyfriend. When you have set your goals, right a paragraph on why you set those goals and why they are so important to you. Also write down how achieving the goals would make a difference in your life. Then whenever you feel unmotivated, just pull out that piece of paper and carefully read it. You can even put motivational quotes in that apply to your goals. This will help you stay motivated and make sure you achieve your goals with the right reasons.
- Ask for help
Everyone gets stuck or lost once in a while. Running into problems that seem difficult may decrease your will power. Let’s say no to that by asking people for help. You can start with friends and family who often give good suggestions, or you can ask experts on the internet. There are many resources out there for you to utilize, but whether you can put in the effort to look for help is up to you. Sometimes people say they have no time or no money to do certain things, how about taking time management class or asking a financial advisor for help? You may succeed if you keep trying, but you will never succeed you quit.
I hope these 10 tips will help you start the year strong AND end the year strong. Although resolutions may seem exciting, you should always remember to make goals throughout the year. Goals shouldn’t just be about a new year and a new start. Goals should be a constant challenge for becoming a better version of yourself. I will be sharing my goals for this year very soon as I have just injured myself, so I have to push back all schedules a little.
– Little Ms. Everything